i just discovered funny #kristinakuzmic. in this viral video she talks about internet trolls:
“i understand that you have a right to have our own opinion.
absolutely.
if someone posts a picture of their baby and you think that baby is really ugly.
that makes you a human with an opinion.
now, if you choose to comment on that picture, stating you think that baby is really ugly,
that makes you an awful human with an opinion.”
(kristina kuzmic)
absolutely.
if someone posts a picture of their baby and you think that baby is really ugly.
that makes you a human with an opinion.
now, if you choose to comment on that picture, stating you think that baby is really ugly,
that makes you an awful human with an opinion.”
(kristina kuzmic)
taken by this video:
i think her distinction between being honest and being rude can be applied throughout many contexts.
like:
like:
“no, i don’t need you to share your opinion about my body with me.”
“but i am just being honest with you.”
“jaaaa, but, please, keep your honest and awful opinion to yourself.”
“but i am just being honest with you.”
“jaaaa, but, please, keep your honest and awful opinion to yourself.”
people are allowed to have whatever opinion they want to have…
but
depending on the context
it really can make ‘you an awful human with an opinion’
or when someone tells me what they HATE about me [in a way that belittles very much]. well, that may be ‘JUST an honest opinion shared with me’.
BUT, it also can make ‘you an awful' honest 'human’
frankly?
i would like you to just keep it to yourself next time!”
and, you know what?
i will also follow this advice for myself!
this weird implementation: “I ALWAYS NEED TO BE HONEST”?
bullshit!
i will ask myself later where it comes from to be able to change it for better.
i have the feeling it has something to do with my German socialization but it also lies strongly in my family.
lol
i just realize that i was talking with a friend last week and that i had the urge to tell her something frankly. i needed to tell her “my truth”.
at the same time, i had this feeling in my stomach questioning it.
do you really need to tell her that she is cheating and lying to herself?
i always believed that it is good to reflect each other so that we can change for better
moreover, i could always reinsure my friends that they can build on my honesty.
Ja, if they ASK ME for advice.
– honestly –
minimum respect would be if I’d offer it
"do you want to hear my opinion?"
and I know that it is always better to ask instead of ‘telling my truth’.
“are you sure about ... with this situation?”
but sometimes this is just a communication technique.
and even following this
– which is obviously less arrogant at least –
is sometimes hard for me.
i’m so happy I just remembered the simple rule Chuck Spezzano
[his words interpreted by me]
brought into my life:
other people are a mirror.
if there’s something that triggers me?
look deep inside yourself
it can teach something about yourself
if there’s something that triggers me?
look deep inside yourself
it can teach something about yourself
which is always hard for me
at first sight
because if it triggers something
it is linked with strong emotions
“what? this stuff? i can’t probably be like this in aaaaaaany way!!”
and what is the need of being always honest?
I just apologized to my friend.
and she brought up a good point
sometimes, we have to handle things we don’t like
and other helps us to bring some light into our lives
where we don't like it
i already mentioned that point above
as it was my leading argument
and i still want truth where i am blind
to keep growing
and yes, there have been many moments
when hard told ‘truths’
were helpful
that's how I became such a big fan
of this concept
but there are also many moments
when these ‘truths’ are
blocking
holding back
and mostly, i am very well in managing my own stuff
i don't want and need others to tell me how to live my life
i really like the approach another friend of mine is living
she says
"i don’t like it but i don’t want you to feel bad because of that."
and she means it.
i mean
inspired by Ghandi’s truthfulness
being truthful and authentic
is definitely a nadeen life goal
jajaja...what to do
it’s not that easy.
and never simple
every situation is different
also
truthful people taught me that
sometimes
less talking is more precious
jajaja...
one thing i am sure about
a narrow mind isn't very helpful!
nor are simple answers
maybe
when i aks my heart
it will tell me if i am just being arrogant
or truthful
?
damn.
life isn’t getting easier
isn’t it?
at first sight
because if it triggers something
it is linked with strong emotions
“what? this stuff? i can’t probably be like this in aaaaaaany way!!”
and what is the need of being always honest?
I just apologized to my friend.
and she brought up a good point
sometimes, we have to handle things we don’t like
and other helps us to bring some light into our lives
where we don't like it
i already mentioned that point above
as it was my leading argument
and i still want truth where i am blind
to keep growing
and yes, there have been many moments
when hard told ‘truths’
were helpful
that's how I became such a big fan
of this concept
but there are also many moments
when these ‘truths’ are
blocking
holding back
and mostly, i am very well in managing my own stuff
i don't want and need others to tell me how to live my life
i really like the approach another friend of mine is living
she says
"i don’t like it but i don’t want you to feel bad because of that."
and she means it.
i mean
inspired by Ghandi’s truthfulness
being truthful and authentic
is definitely a nadeen life goal
jajaja...what to do
it’s not that easy.
and never simple
every situation is different
also
truthful people taught me that
sometimes
less talking is more precious
jajaja...
one thing i am sure about
a narrow mind isn't very helpful!
nor are simple answers
maybe
when i aks my heart
it will tell me if i am just being arrogant
or truthful
?
damn.
life isn’t getting easier
isn’t it?